Poor sleep quality can affect more than work performance the ability to safely maneuver a car. A lack of good, restful sleep could also interfere with intimate relationships. In fact, it can wreak havoc on that relationship. We've got to learn how to improve our sleep routines so we're less likely to start an argument, more likely to stay in shape, less likely to hold a grudge, and even more likely to be attentive and less likely to forget special dates.
When was the last time you and your partner argued? Were you both well-rested? Research shows that people are more likely to lose their cool if they’ve been deprived of sleep. Getting plenty of sleep helps us to maintain an even keel and that's, frankly, just more pleasant to be around. When we don't get enough sleep we can be grouchy creatures, and that can lead to snappishness and, ultimately, arguments.
Being at a healthier weight provides most of us with more confidence — and stamina — both in and out of the bedroom. And as it turns out, there might be more to the term “beauty sleep” than reduced under-eye bags. Regular, restful sleep may also keep us from experiencing unnecessary weight gain. One meta-analysis found that sleep deprivation causes people to consume more calories without burning any more, leading to slow but steady weight gain. Avoid falling into this trap by getting a solid 7 to 8 hours every night.
This is not to say that extra weight directly impacts relationships, at least it shouldn't. But carrying extra weight makes life more challenging to get around and can make the body feel sluggish and this can contribute to relationship decline.
When we are confronted with an upsetting situation, we can rationalize and calm ourselves down, or we can create a negative mental script that amplifies our negative perceptions. When we don’t get enough sleep, the latter is more likely to prevail. Worse, this negative script can replay, again and again, causing us to build a grudge. Don’t be that jerk who can’t let anything go; get that sleep.
Sleep deprivation can wear away at our ability to feel and express empathy and empathy is a key factor in healthy relationships. All relationships are two-way streets, and our partners need someone who can be there for them when they need it — someone who has a firm grasp of understanding and compassion. Don’t deprive your loved ones of any of the nurturing you’re capable of giving. Make it a point to get to bed early enough so your sense of empathy is at its best.
Have you committed your anniversary to memory yet? How are you with remembering birthdays? If there’s a chance you’ll forget, then you can all but guarantee you’ll make that monumental mistake if you’re letting your sleep slide. One study found REM sleep to be vital in storing and recalling memories. Improve your sleep patterns to increase your chances of remembering the important things or just the grocery list.
Don’t let restless nights get in the way of those important relationships. Adopt a regular sleep routine, using sleep relaxation techniques if need be, and don’t be afraid to address the problem with a doctor as there are many more solutions now than there used to be. Our loved ones deserve the best of us, and this one way we can make sure they get it.