You parted ways amicably. Your partner broke it off, but claims he still loves you and wants to stay friends. You don’t see why that couldn’t work – after all, this is the person who knows you best. You were always there for each other, you were already friends while you were a couple. Such a deep bond can’t just disappear – so why wouldn’t it work now? - It is possible, but not very likely, that you’ll...
Why is love so hard for most people? - From my perspective working with struggling couples, it's usually a lack of knowing what to do that allows intimacy and connection to drift silently away. What we don't know is in fact hurting our most treasured relationships. Whether we like it or not, we do model our relationship strategies from our parents and family members. You will ultimately have about...
He’s a hunk, fun, nice, and treats you like a queen. As long as things between you are light and easy-going, life is good. When you need intimacy, he finds other places to be and things to do. Sound familiar? - The problem is classic: a man can be -emotionally unavailable- when needed the most. Fortunately, we know the cause of the problem and how to fix it. Many men are emotionally unavailable to...
By their very nature women are nurturers and tend to give out more than they receive. Women can become so focused on their careers, their husbands/boyfriends, their friends, entertaining and children that they forget themselves. When women forget themselves, they lose themselves and begin to hardly resemble the person they once were. Soul time is vitally important for women to stay connected within....
While each woman is going to have some variations in what she is looking for, most have the same main qualities they want in a partner. These qualities are indicative of the possibility of a lifelong partner, otherwise known as husband material. With at least a few of these attributes under his belt, the man you have is well on his way to being exactly what you need. Humor - A guy who can make you...
With the divorce rate around 45% it's no surprise that many couples want to do everything they can to strengthen their marriage. The problem is that many couples believe certain myths about their marriages and spend time trying to correct the wrong things. Our time is very valuable, imagine wasting it trying to fix things that don't need fixing? - Below are 5 of the most popular myths concerning marriage...
Cindy met Bill through her tennis club. He was charming, good-looking, and he swept her off her feet in a whirlwind courtship. Pushing for a quick marriage, he proposed after only two months. Though she felt a few flutters of anxiety, Cindy accepted, hoping for true love. Six months later, she deeply regretted the haste. Bill turned out to be both alcoholic and verbally abusive, with the threat of...
When people say - “That couple’s got chemistry!” - what exactly are they talking about? Well, they “hit it off,” or they have “much in common,” or they are “bonding,” or they’re “clicking,” or they got-it-going on “romantically!” These phrases are used frequently, but when you think about it, they are surface-statements that do not explain much about the nuts and bolts of a loving relationship. We...
We all have things we wish we would have done differently. Many of us regret certain relationship faux pas that ended our time with loved ones too soon. Consider these 6 relationship regrets and how you can avoid them in the future... 1. Denying Your Partner’s Happiness - Relationships are not one sided. You can’t be the only one who’s happy. You need to make sure your partner is happy as well. Denying...
There are many different types of dysfunctional relationships. In codependent types of relationships, a common pattern of behavior that can be found is the -anxious-avoidant -trap. I explain this pattern in full detail in my book, "-The Marriage and Relationship Junkie,"-and once you know the -trap, -it is easy to see. Let's take a look... The Dynamics - The dynamics of the -anxious-avoidant -trap...