It is one of life’s biggest challenges, dealing with the feelings of loss when someone close to you - whether that be a friend or family member - passes away. It can be such an overwhelming time, and it is different for everyone, each and every person grieves in their own way. Sometimes it is hard to know what to do and how to cope with the loss and grief; you may be overcome with a number of unexpected emotions, it can even affect your physical health making you not able to think clearly or even manage to eat. While there is no one set way to grieve there are things that you can do to try to help you deal with, and move on from, such a significant loss.
Remembering your loved one who passed away can provide a great deal of comfort. Attending a funeral or memorial service for that person, in the presence of so many others that loved them, allows you to honour them in a very respectful environment. You will be able to leave knowing that they will always be remembered and their life celebrated. If it is your responsibility to plan the funeral or memorial service it can be overwhelming, services such as Beyond are there to help you every step of the way to ensure everything is executed perfectly and with ease.
Don’t shut yourself away from everyone and keep your feelings to yourself; similarly, you don’t have to try and continue on with your life as if nothing has happened. It is not healthy to appear as if everything is fine to everyone else if that is not how you are truly feeling, don’t bottle everything up. Allow yourself to be sad if you feel that way, crying can be cathartic and allows you to release any emotions and feelings you’ve been keeping inside.
Many find it helpful to seek grief counseling to help them work through their confusing and complicated emotions that they have towards the situation. A grief counselor can provide you with an amazing line of support, they are there specifically to help you deal with these types of emotions and to help you get through this difficult time in the way that suits you best. If talking to a professional makes you feel uncomfortable or is just not your type of thing, consider joining a support group so you can share your experience with others and they can share theirs with you - it is a great way of knowing that you are never alone and that so many people deal with this every day. Even just reaching out to a family member or a friend to discuss how you're feeling is great.
It is important to remember that everyone is different when it comes to loss and grief, deal with it in your own healthy way and always know that you are never alone.