Although I do lots of individual work I’ve been working diligently for the past 20 yrs with couples – focusing on the phenomenon of coupling (coupling is not a random accident) – opposites attract and couple – each bring their own “extreme solution”(see individ work) to the relationship - conflict is predictable – most wound each other in the battle of solving (unfortunately not resolving) conflict – often the stronger wins the battles but loses the war – unresolved cumulative conflict is the GRIM REAPER of marriage – I developed the marital survival kit out of necessity in the struggle of helping couples share the power and avoid those fatal wounds – REMEMBER – the opposite of shame/humiliation = RAGE (overt or passive aggressive)
EXTREME PROBLEMS REQUIRE EXTREME SOLUTIONS AND EXTREME SOLUTIONS OFTEN BECOME EXTREME PROBLEMS. Counseling or therapy if you will is way to mysterious. I want you involved in it right from the beginning. What you bring to the table is your latest best attempt at life – although causing you some big pain/stress it’s your latest best shot – I want you to tell me what your extreme problem was (your significant history) and together we will look at how you adapted - your solution your latest best coping – which is your current struggle – extreme problems require extreme solutions – extreme solutions often become extreme problems – time to take inventory – discard what no longer works and develop more effective coping skills
ServicesDick Flaherty, owner is a Psychologist office located in Salisbury, MA. A psychologist focuses on the evaluation, prevention, diagnosis, and treatment of mental, emotional and behavioral health issues. A clinical psychologist uses psychotherapy and other counseling skills to improve emotional and mental health.
Please call Dick Flaherty, owner at (978) 465-9139 to schedule an appointment in Salisbury, MA or to get more information.