Recovery from any type of addiction is a process, not a milestone that is obtained and checked off of a list. In my new book "The Marriage and Relationship Junkie," I provide a picture of the opportunities and possibilities for relationship and marriage addicts in recovery. There is a path to healthy love and positive, meaningful relationships. It will take time, learning to be comfortable and accepting...
After being married 25 years, I’m suffering a bit from PTSD. Not necessarily from the divorce but rather from being thrown back into the dating pool! Maybe you are like me too, where finding that ideal partner has seemed like a bad joke on most days. For many, dating is a game. A competitive activity involving skill, chance, or endurance on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set...
When one of my friends turned 50 and was still single (after a few bad relationships and divorce) she said "That’s it. I am destined to be single for the rest of my life, so I better start loving myself. I’m all I got." - Getting close to that age, and single myself, was I destined to be single for the rest of my life? I reacted very intensely to her, in saying “No, don’t you dare give up, there is...
Many years ago I had a conversation with my wife that could have ended our marriage. And I have seen many couples engaged in the exact same cycle of relationship destruction. Here's what happened: - My wife said something to me and I responded back. She accused me of having a “tone." Who, me? - So now I am defending my “no tone." - She now says something back with a “tone" in her voice. So I escalate...